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Stagnant Strategies

This morning, I kept hearing a thudding sound coming from the kitchen area of my home. 

To my horror, I immediately thought an appliance was going out, but it was quiet when I walked into the kitchen.  The dining room too was silent, though just outside the window I saw a cute little bird on a Japanese Maple bush just a few inches from the window. The bird retreated further into the branches upon seeing me.

Perplexed by the mystery sound, and still hoping it wasn’t an appliance that sensed my presence, I thought, That was weird! and went back to what I was doing.  

Within a few minutes I heard:

Thud! Thud! Thud!

What is going on?  

The thudding continued as I stealthily walked back in the same area and heard the thudding clearly coming from outside that window. 

I couldn’t believe what I was seeing! 

That cute little bird, that couldn’t have weighed more than a couple of ounces, kept trying to fly in through the window and ricocheting off the glass, then landing on the Japanese Maple branches over and over.  It must have done it 20 times all together from the first time I heard it.

“What are you after, little guy, that you’d be willing to repeatedly hurt yourself?” I said through the glass.  The bird again retreated into the branches when it saw me.    

I have two parakeets each bigger than that bird and know how fragile they are. I can’t imagine that thudding felt good. I closed the curtain and the thudding stopped.

You’d think that first thud would have been enough to deter the bird from trying again. 

This reminded me too much of the times I kept going back to a detrimental relationship or situation because I thought,  

Maybe this time things will work out better If I just try harder.

Have you gone back to the same harmful person or situation hoping for a change when clearly there was no indication anything had changed at all?

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Warmly,

Elizabeth

By ~ Elizabeth Yalian 2013-2025 ©http://hiseyeisonthissparrowtoo.com

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