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Weighty Luggage

When our lifetime of baggage becomes heavy clutter, it’s time to take inventory of what to keep, what to give away, and what to discard. Continue reading

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Mother’s Day, Not So Happy for Everyone

grandma adn babyMother’s Day has circled the calendar once more, and while for some it is a joyful-mom-honoring day, for others it’s another hurtful reminder of what they don’t have.

I’m told that Mother’s Day is the biggest and busiest restaurant day, but then I also heard that about Valentine’s Day so perhaps it’s a tie between the two, and one of the reasons I’m not thrilled about going out for Mother’s Day. There are the long waits, the rushed meals, and the hit-and-miss service.

So, what do Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day have in common that makes them such big days? A celebration of love. Whether celebrating for couples, family, or a mom, love is why we have such days. Continue reading

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Letting Our Light Shine

In Matthew 22:36-39 a Pharisee, hoping to stump Jesus, comes and asks: “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?” 36 

The Pharisee thought Jesus should say all of the commandments came from God and all of them were great, right? I mean, that does make sense, doesn’t it? However…

Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ 37-39 

Jesus gave the Pharisee those two commandments because they cover all the other commandments combined. That’s what made them so great. If we love the Lord God with all our heart, soul, and mind, it should be naturally easy to also love our neighbor as our self. And if we happen to not like ourselves very much, we know we are valuable because we are made by God, and made in God’s very image.

However, in our fallible and errant condition, that’s not so easy at all. We often struggle to just be nice to our own family and friends. Yet as followers of Christ we are told we must demonstrate love and respect to all people, including those we don’t like, love, or agree with.

It’s God’s way.

Even those who rub us wrong? Yes!

Well then, they should be nice back to us if we are nice to them. Isn’t that common courtesy? Continue reading

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De-Cluttering Your Life

imageAs 2015 began I felt especially passionate for a fresh beginning. Not so much a New Year’s resolution but a life resolution. For two years I’ve felt God pressing me to live simply. I wasn’t sure what living simply meant from God’s perspective but with time He’s given me little hints here and there. For instance, I realized I had too much stuff! You know things that get shoved in closets, cupboards, attics, and basements that probably won’t be used anytime soon if ever.

I’ve been slowly getting rid of things, which is not easy for me. Because I have experienced so much loss throughout my life, I unintentionally began counting on material things to make up for that loss. I developed relationships with things that held a good feeling in my memories. Continue reading

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Longer Hugs, Please

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I don’t know who invented hugs but I bet they started in the Garden of Eden when God first blew the breath of life into Adam’s nostrils, and most certainly there was at least one hug involved when God presented Adam with his wife, Eve. Yeah, definitely a few hugs then.

In my opinion most hugs are delightful, and they are varied as the people who give them.

There is the I-love-you-dearly long hug.

There’s the snuggling-with-my-poo-bear hug parents share with their kids. Continue reading

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Wounds of a True Friend

imageMy friend Karen and I are “scrounging” friends, as she calls it. We both enjoy going to second-hand stores in search of treasures. I often smile inwardly when I get a compliment on something I bought at a thrift store and think, I only paid 99 cents for that.

Our scavenger hunts are therapeutic and fun. As we rummage we talk about things we value such as God, life, purpose, family, cooking, ethics, we offer each other a word of counsel when needed, and we share fun tidbits and our latest epiphanies with each other.

Yesterday, I told her I thought of her as my What-would-you-do-if you-were-me? buddy when I need a word of wisdom. Continue reading

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It’s Much Too Easy to Assume

imageI married into a retail merchant processing business that takes my husband, and sometimes me, to various types of merchants.

Beauty and nail salons, dental and doctor offices, accounting offices, car dealerships, auto shops, from sophisticated restaurants to ma-and-pa places, specialty stores, an antique mall, gas stations, a family owned grocery store, and many more merchants. Thankfully, my husband reviews and passes on providing services to merchants with questionable standards.

Just yesterday, he asked me to pick up some paperwork from an upscale lounge in a very popular area of town. I was grateful to find a parking place only two blocks up. As I turned the busy corner where the lounge is located and opened its etched glass door, I couldn’t help but think that if any of the passersby saw me going in there at one in the afternoon, or come out the door five minutes later, or perhaps even happen to be in the lounge themselves, they would most likely question my sincerity as a believer.

So often we assume we know what someone is doing when we judge from afar, when in fact we have no clue of what really is going on.

Let us not be hasty in judgment lest we are judged the same way. 

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By ~ Elizabeth Yalian 2013-2014 ©http://hiseyeisonthissparrow.com.

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Even God Knows Relationships Are Messy

imageWhen I was a teen I was very curious about love as it was a foreign concept in my home.

At home, the word, meaning, or idea was never ever discussed… far from it. Life there was a string of harsh criticism and heartache.

In my mid-teens I became enamored with the newspaper comic strip called “Love Is.” I carefully cut out each little square and taped it inside my bedroom closet door along with the rest of my collection of Love Is comic strips trying to make sense of what love really meant. I gazed longingly at the little figures; their messages of love seemed so ideal.

I wanted their harmonious, altruistic, and thoughtful ways to be part of my life also.

I genuinely thought these little people represented the true example of love and relationship, and that anything else proved to be lack of love, something to run from. Continue reading

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Grandmotherly Wisdom

Photo: Grandmother says... Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; "Which are you?"</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point,grandmother?"</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Think of this: Which am I?</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <p>---AUTHOR UNKNOWN —

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?””Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it.After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. “What’s the point, grandmother?”

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter.

“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

—AUTHOR UNKNOWN —

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How Does One Spell Love?

imageYes you do feel it, but love is something you

DO because of those feelings.

You spell love by the way you behave towards someone.

You act it out by putting actions to your feelings.

That is how you prove your love for someone. Continue reading

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