At home, the word, meaning, or idea was never ever discussed… far from it. Life there was a string of harsh criticism and heartache.
In my mid-teens I became enamored with the newspaper comic strip called “Love Is.” I carefully cut out each little square and taped it inside my bedroom closet door along with the rest of my collection of Love Is comic strips trying to make sense of what love really meant. I gazed longingly at the little figures; their messages of love seemed so ideal.
I wanted their harmonious, altruistic, and thoughtful ways to be part of my life also.
I genuinely thought these little people represented the true example of love and relationship, and that anything else proved to be lack of love, something to run from.
It wouldn’t be until many years later that I would discover how unrealistic my idea of love and relationships was. Sure, there are a handful of people that have that fairytale relationship, but they are indeed few.
It’s no secret that relationships, and anything to do with loving another person, turn out to be somewhat untidy at times. As the old saying goes, “Relationships are messy”. Whether we are talking about husband-wife, parent-child, siblings, relatives, friends, neighbors, employee-employer, or co-workers, problems tends to arise.
And when they do, stuffing anger and frustration rather than letting the other person know there’s a problem, and attempting to come to a resolve causes barriers and disconnect in families, and any other type of relationships; triggering ill-feelings, distance, hostility, and possibly alienation eventually. Unfortunately, not everyone is eager to “fix things” as fixing things aren’t always easy or pain free. Fixing things are an uncomfortable bother, and will take a great deal of working things through, forgiveness, and hard work; which means maturity has to play a major role in the fixing. Sometimes one person refuses to act the part in the solution to resolve matters, and things stay unsettled indefinitely.
During difficult times relationships can become muddled and sometimes even terribly disorderly. Fact is, when two naturally (by nature’s default) selfish, self-absorbed, stubborn, and hopelessly imperfect people come together in any kind of close relationship there are often more than a few wrinkles involved in collating their lives long term. A good relationship takes a strong dose of giving, taking, sacrificing, compromising, and a willingness to problem solve as the relationship moves past the “honeymoon” stage and into the wear and tear stage.
Even our relationship with a perfect God got awful messy. Not on His side but on ours. Mankind’s relationship with God was so askew that God had to use some pretty drastic measures to resolve things. God is a relational God, as a matter of fact He invented love and relationships. Throughout the Bible we read of God’s desire to get people to straighten out their relationship with Him. And each time they did, He was there with open arms.
Because God’s love for us is so profoundly deep and perfect, He was willing to get messy right along with us. Doesn’t that strike you as unbelievably odd and yet incredibly amazing all at once? A perfect and all powerful God getting messy with us for our sakes!
How? By taking our sins on His back, and paying the costliest price of all. With His life.
That’s real LOVE!
Let’s thank God for His goodness and mercy for God forgives, He loves fully; He loves perfectly.
Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13
By ~ Elizabeth Yalian 2013-2014 ©http://hiseyeisonthissparrow.com. ♛