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Live Life One Now at a Time

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When I had very small children at home I chided myself constantly because I could not be the perfect mom, no matter how hard I tried. Not knowing then that I was losing a lot of myself and the precious things around me by expecting too much of myself, I forced myself to be all and do it all. I wanted to be the mom to my kids I never had.

I rocked my babies to sleep, showered them with kisses and hugs, read them stories, and got on the floor and played with them. I kept them clean and well dressed, and did all I could to keep them happy, well fed, and safe.  Continue reading

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The Power of the Tongue

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God used His tongue for good in the beginning when He spoke the world of perfect beauty and unimaginable peace into being, and all of its inhabitants into existence, and said, “It is good.” Genesis 1 and 2

Yet, because of Lucifer’s jealousy, he said.  “I will ascend to heaven; I will raise my throne above the stars of God; I will sit on the mount of assembly on the heights of Zaphon; I will ascend to the tops of the clouds, I will make myself like the Most High”  Isaiah 14:12-14 Continue reading

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Things Aren’t Always as They Appear

imageSome days just go a little awkward, you know?

Like the hot summer day over twenty years ago, when I sat by an open window repeatedly doing the a wolf whistle (the kind a man does when a pretty woman goes by), in an attempt to teach our new parakeet, Jesse, how to whistle.  After Jesse’s 10 minute lesson, I stood up and noticed that just a few yards from my window, my neighbor’s shirtless husband was wiping his car dry. Apparently, he had been washing it for at least 10 minutes.  Continue reading

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Is American Life Too Impersonal Today?

Even with all of our social media, Americans seem more distant and recluse than ever.

Studies now show that lack of family support and social and psychological stress increase health and heart attack risk factors much more than poor diet, smoking, and lack of exercise.

Roseto, a borough in Pennsylvania, is named after the village of Roseto Valfortore in Italy, and it’s a most interesting little town.

Long ago, Roseto was mainly settled by South Italian immigrants who worked the slate quarries. But what really makes Roseto interesting is that the town was the subject of a 50 year medical case study in the fields of cardiology and sociology called “The Roseto Effect”.

Dr. Steward Wolf, and internist, became captivated by the community’s low rate of heart disease when a colleague, who had a medical practice in Roseto, mentioned that he had never treated anyone under the age of 55 for heart disease. There was only 1 death per 1000 people, less than 50% lower than their neighboring towns or the rest of the country. Upon hearing this in 1961, Dr. Wolf, head of the Department of Medicine at the University of Oklahoma, decided to visit Roseto.

This is what he found. Compared to Roseto’s neighbors, mortality rates were indeed unbelievably, low and people suffered nearly 35-40% less heart attacks.

But what he really discovered was a community rich with Amore!

The citizens of Roseto valued strong family life and nurturing communities. Generations of church going families had grown up in the same home and often shared meals. The tight community was rich in values, and strong family ties with solid father examples, highly esteemed stay-at-home moms, and honored grandparents.

People lived simply; they appreciated each other and enjoyed living close to their neighbors.

Dr. Wolf found that though the people were heavier, didn’t exercise much, and ate all the taboo heart foods, their heart attack and death rates were lower than anywhere else in America!

In 1963 it was anticipated that if the people’s lifestyle was to change and their social values faded, their heart disease rates would increase.

Sure enough, as the years passed the family life and sense of togetherness that had given them the longevity of life began to erode, and as the parents and grandparents began to die off, the younger generation began to leave Roseto in search of college careers. Stress escalated. Church turnout plunged. Simple pleasures were traded in for fancier cars and homes.

Dr. Wolf’s last report in 1975 indicated Roseto’s heart attack rate had greatly increased since 1961 and was no different than the rest of the country.

I was recently at my local Fred Meyers and had a conversation with a woman who was complaining about the ridiculously high price for organic hot dogs. I strongly agreed. We got to talking about American food.

“I am half-Romanian and half-Italian,” she said in her heavy accent, “in Italy, nobody goes to doctors or hospitals unless they are very old. People just don’t get sick; they stay healthy and live a long life. I think it’s this American food with all its chemicals.” she said lowering her voice.

“Don’t get me wrong, I love America, but the food here—it took me three months to eat this American bread. No one would touch food with all these chemicals in Italy.”

I wholeheartedly agreed with her about the food but as she spoke, with her being half-Italian and all, I couldn’t help but think about the Roseto story I had recently read.

http://creationhealth.com/CREATIONHealth/Interpersonal/TheRosettoEffect/tabid/2970/Default.aspx

http://www.people.com/people/archive/article/0,,20076736,00.html

By ~ Elizabeth Yalian 2014 ©http://hiseyeisonthissparrow.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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From the Father’s Perspective

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What do you see when you look in the mirror?

A mess?

A weak person?

A sinful person?

A damaged person?

Do you see an insignificant person?

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Continue reading

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A Note From an Aspiring Author

Book writing, like wine,

only gets better with time;

and an enormous amount of revision.  emy

Okay everybody, I am finally almost done. For reals this time! Really, I meant it!

But what a chore it has been.

For a while I have been threatening to write a memoir. Well, I finally did, but the funny thing is that it’s not my memoir.  Though, of course, it has an awful lot of my heart and soul in it.

It’s really the fictional memoir of a homeless man named Nick. I have a desire to bring awareness to the tragedy of homelessness and the heartbreak of un-adopted foster kids that age out of foster care, and end up homeless.

As if those poor kids have not been through enough already.

Yes, this really does happen, by the way.

You may have some questions.

How did I end up writing a fictional memoir, rather than my own? And What on earth would make me think anyone would even be interested in reading my memoir anyway?

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Do We Expect Too Much?

I learned something last night.  I am taking a self-help class on a book called Safe People. A profound book on relationships that’s backed by Scripture.  We discussed relational peeves in our group. I shared two experiences.

Scenario #1

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When the Church Lets You Down

“Are you withholding sex from your marriage?  A man needs to have sex every 72 hours, and if you are not available that could be one of the reasons why your marriage is having such problems.”

I sat in the chair with my mouth dropped open to this pastor’s counseling words, and left the office more dismayed than when I entered it. I could not believe his preposterous statement. We had been attending the small church for over a year and it had taken me some time to get comfortable enough to go to the pastor for help. The pastor agreed to “counsel us” but after I left his office, I felt very little hope.

I had unwittingly signed up for an abusive marriage; the problems began almost immediately after the wedding. Though there was never any physical abuse, the verbal and emotional blows to me as a person were equally devastating, except unlike physical abuse; the wounding left deep scarring that seldom healed.

My expressions of feelings of despair and heartache were ignored and easily dismissed with.

“Hey, I’m perfectly happy. You’re the one with the problem.”  Another time he said.  “I don’t know what your problem is, I don’t beat you.”  He did emotionally!

Of course he was happy.  He was the one doing the lying, cheating, drinking, gambling, manipulating, controlling, criticizing, partying, ignoring, avoiding, abusing and oppressing. Continue reading

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Are We So Different From the Children of Israel?

In Exodus, God has shown the children of Israel that not only He’s there with them, but that He is a Mighty God. Because of Pharaoh’s rebellion, He has steadily pummeled Egypt with unbelievably supernatural plagues. Here are a few: all water is turned into blood, their homes and land are obscenely overrun with frogs, locusts devour their crops, boils afflict them, and finally the death of their first born sons.
Throughout the ten supernatural plagues that ravage Egypt, the children of Israel go untouched. And though some of Pharaoh’s magicians duplicate the first few plagues, they cannot remove them or duplicate the rest.
If all of their water is turned to blood and the place is overrun by frogs, why on earth would the magicians cause more grief upon themselves by adding to the problem?  Hmmm. Just curious. Continue reading

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When it Comes to Meds, Study Suggests You Feel What You Believe

Knowing I suffer from chronic migraines, my neighbor dropped off a newspaper article on a recent study titled,

“Study: Thinking positive helps migraine drug work,” by Lauran Neergaard AP, a medical writer.

The article is about a study that proposes that what a patient expects out of a migraine medication will make a huge difference in the results that patient gets from their meds.

Sixty-six migraine patients were recruited for the study, some were given placebos (dummy meds) in an effort to measure the amount of real med related pain relief vs. the amount of relief from patient’s confidence because of their doctor’s positive comments about the meds.

In the article, Ted Kaptchuk, a Harvard professor, suggests that each word the patient is told about their medication is just as important as the actual prescription.

After over 450 headaches were analyzed, researchers concluded how essential it was for doctors to prudently select their words to their patients when subscribing a powerful drug; as the doctor’s message could make or break the medicine’s benefits. Continue reading

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